Why I do this work | How I work | Who I Work With | My Background | Practicalities

Why I Do This Work

I’ve seen what happens when people live disconnected from themselves. When they swallow things down. When they fall silent.

When life overwhelms. When they keep performing or pushing through, long past the point of sense or sanity.

I’ve lived versions of it myself.

This work isn’t about fixing people. It’s about helping them come back into honest contact—with what they feel, what they want, and what they might have been avoiding. To find their footing, to find a path forwards. 

This work isn’t about fixing people.

For me, counselling is about creating a space where it’s possible, and safe, to drop the mask — even if only for a short while. To talk, feel deeply, speak your truth. To find what you’ve been avoiding.

I don’t offer a magic wand. I offer a walking stick—so you don’t have to walk the next part alone.

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How I Work

Sessions are straightforward and grounded — getting quickly to what’s alive for you. I pay close attention not only to what you say, but also to what seems left unsaid.

Each person is unique. Their circumstances, experiences, joys and sorrows shape the work — we build the pace and focus around what you need. Sessions balance honest conversation, reflective silence, and practical experimentation.

There might be moments where I challenge you — but only after asking your permission, and always with compassion and respect. The goal is real change, not just insight, within a space safe enough for honesty and vulnerability.

I am SGfB-registered and BACP-accredited — frameworks that inform my work every day.

Who I Work With

I work with men, couples, and individuals who find themselves caught in old patterns, raw emotions, and tough realities, or numbed down and burnt out.

People don’t always choose for themselves to come or find it easy to stay in the process of counselling. But they do come—and they do return—because they know that something needs to give.

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No perfect story or clear question is needed to start the work. What matters is showing up.
I’ll meet you where you are.

My Background

I was born in Zambia and grew up in the Netherlands — in a large, creative family on the edge of the Veluwe. A forest, music, a house full of conversation and DIY. What began there continued to grow: a curiosity about what moves people, touches them, or silences them.

Years later that curiosity took me back to Africa as a correspondent — listening, observing, asking questions — until the stories I was capturing became inseparable from my own questions about love, masculinity, and loss. That shift led to my book Spots of a Leopard and eventually, in Nairobi, to studying counselling psychology.

Since 2015 I’ve been working in private practice, where the dynamics of relationships — between lovers, within families, within ourselves — are central. Communication, boundaries, vulnerability, intimacy, love, openness.

And also shame, anger, loneliness, longing, grief. Not just as abstract concepts, but as experiences I’ve had to learn to navigate myself.

What drives me, in every session and every silence, is this: learning to be human — honest, present, relational.

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I am a counsellor, friend, father, neighbour, son and brother — roles that keep me deeply rooted in life.

My mountain bike is my temple, often taking me into the Jura or the Alps.

You can connect with me on LinkedIn

Practicalities

Sessions are 60 or 90 minutes — individuals can choose either, couples sessions are always 90. I work in person in Nyon and Lausanne, and online via secure video call, in English and Dutch. For current fees and booking, visit the practicalities page.

I am registered with the SGfB (Swiss Professional Association for Counselling) and accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

Explore my services: Couples Counselling, , Individual Counselling, or Counselling for Men

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