“No perfect story or clear question is needed to start the work. What matters is showing up.”
Why I Do This Work
I’ve seen what happens when people live disconnected from themselves. When they swallow things down. When they fall silent. When life overwhelms. When they keep performing or pushing through, long past the point of sense or sanity.
I’ve lived versions of it myself.
This work isn’t about fixing people. It’s about helping them come back into honest contact—with what they feel, what they want, and what they might have been avoiding. To find their footing, to find a path forwards.
For me, counselling is about creating a space where it is possible, and safe, to drop the mask, if only for a short while. Where someone gets to talk, feel deeply, speak their truth—even when it’s scary—sit in silence, and try new ways of expressing and caring for themselves in more fulfilling ways.
I don’t offer a magic wand. I offer a walking stick—so you don’t have to walk the next part alone.
How I Work
Sessions with me are straightforward and grounded, getting quickly to what’s alive for you. I pay close attention not only to what you say but also to what seems left unsaid.
I don’t do scripted therapy. Each individual is unique—their circumstances, experiences, joys, and sorrows shape the work. We shape the pace and focus around what you need, not theory or agenda.
I offer clear feedback and honest reflection, and sessions balance honest conversation, reflective silence, and practical experimentation. There might be moments where I challenge you, but only after asking your permission and always with compassion, curiosity, and respect.
“I commit to exploring what feels stuck or unresolved—and what’s needed now, from you or for you.”
Sessions balance honest conversation, reflective silence, and practical experimentation. We work together at your pace to uncover new ways forward that fit your life and values. The goal is real change, not just insight, within a space safe enough for honesty and vulnerability.
Who I Work With
I welcome everyone. After all, we all go through phases that feel sticky, prickly, or outright uncomfortable. Whether invited or not, trouble knocks on everyone’s door.
I work with men, couples, and individuals who find themselves caught in old patterns, raw emotions, and tough realities, or numbed down and burnt out. People don’t always choose to come or find it easy to be here. But they come—and return—because they know that something needs to give.
No perfect story or clear question is needed to start the work. What matters is showing up. I’ll meet you where you are.
My Background
Although born in Zambia, I’m Dutch by birth. I was raised in the Netherlands, and spent nearly two decades living and working across Africa as a journalist—experiences that sharpened how I listen, observe, and how try to understand life.
My formal training began with a master’s degree from an American university. Since then, I’ve studied various psychological approaches—existentialist, narrative, Jungian, and archetypal—as well as trauma-focused techniques like EMDR. Most of my post-degree training has focused on couples counselling approaches, especially Relational Life Therapy and the Gottman Method.
I’m a counsellor, friend, lecturer, father, neighbour, son, and brother—roles that keep me grounded deep in the soil of life. I also spend time mountain biking, primarily in the Jura and the Alps.
Practicalities
Session Length:
60- and 90-minute sessions are available for individuals. All couples sessions last 90 minutes.
Location:
I offer in-person counselling in Nyon and Lausanne, Switzerland, and online via secure video calls.
Languages:
Sessions are conducted in English or Dutch.
Fees & Payment:
For current fees and payment details, please see my practicalities page.
Booking & Cancellation:
Appointments can be booked online via the booking page. Please give at least 24 hours’ notice for cancellations or rescheduling.
The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved.
It simply wants to be witnessed — exactly as it is.
– Parker J. Palmer
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