The Death of a Pet:
Why it Cuts Deeper Than You ExpectedPeople will tell you it was "just an animal," but your body knows better. For a man, a pet is often the only witness who asks for nothing but presence. This is a guide to the silent, raw grief of losing a companion—and why that last walk matters more than any heroic gesture.
When Work Falls Away
When work falls away, the grief goes far deeper than a lost paycheck. It is the tearing of rhythm, role, and the very skin of your identity. This is a grounded exploration of the "shamanic" transition—where the old self is stripped back so a more mature, deeper character can emerge from the silence.
How Men Grieve
Pain That Has Nowhere to GoMen’s grief is often a quiet matter—no drama, just the heavy weight of carrying on. While the world expects openness, many men grieve through withdrawal, work, or the body. This is a guide to understanding the silent language of male loss, from the end of a relationship to the disappearance of an identity, and finding…
Affairs: Breaking and
Rebuilding Trust in Your MarriageAffairs don’t just break promises. They rip through trust, identity, and love itself. In Nyon, Lausanne & Online, I provide a steady, English-speaking space to face the truth of betrayal and choose what comes next.
Grieving After Break-Up
When a relationship ends, men often carry grief in silence — between anger, numbness and fatherhood. This piece explores how to face loss without armour, and stay present through the pain.
Arguing with ChatGPT: How It Fabricated My Own Book
Some clients say ChatGPT helps. Others say it wrecks. I caught it fabricating pages of my book — and it thought it could get away with it.
Transcript: My Argument with ChatGPT
The transcript of my argument with ChatGPT, published for transparency. Edited only for flow, decency (I got quite irate with it) and continuity — not for substance.
The Invisible Load of Being a Dad:
Presence Over ProvisionBeneath the visible logistics of fatherhood sits a heavier load: the constant pressure to provide and fix. But when we become "machines" for our families, we lose the very presence they need most. This is a guide to shifting that weight and reclaiming the small, vital moments that define a legacy.
Every Visitor Brings a Gift:
Learning From Difficult EmotionsDifficult emotions often arrive as grief, anger, or shame. Learning to meet them as visitors can reveal meaning, integration, and a deeper sense of wholeness.
Long Reads
Long Reads
Articles & Reflections
Articles & Reflections
Welcome to Long Reads, my collection of articles and reflections. This is a space where I go deeper on topics like counselling, personal growth, relationships and their quirks, and the complexities of life. These articles aim to inform and inspire, offering insights into themes like presence, parenting, intimacy, and inner work. While they are not a substitute for therapy, they provide a window into the topics that often arise in the journey toward healing, wholeness and self-understanding.
Welcome to Long Reads — articles and reflections on counselling, growth, relationships, and life’s complexities. They offer insights on presence, parenting, intimacy, and inner work — not therapy, but a window into healing and self-understanding.
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