Meeting hindrances in intimacy with vulnerability and authenticity
Things fall apart in different ways. A pattern neither can break. A truth you can’t unhear. A line someone finally draws, or crosses. Couples work is not about blame. It’s about stepping out of the loop, facing what’s real, and deciding how you want to go forward. Couples counselling teaches you skills. Great, and still: those are often not enough. To shift dynamics or mend sudden breakages, the work will often have to go deeper. It means learning how to speak and hear uncomfortable truths: theirs and your own. Intimacy isn’t only nourishing, sexy and cuddly — it’s also (at times) raw and real.
Things fall apart in different ways. A pattern neither can break. A truth you can’t unhear. A line someone finally draws—or crosses. The reasons vary, but couples don’t usually come to counselling because everything’s fine. They come because something vital is stuck, missing, or hurting. Because talking doesn’t work. Because silence has taken over. Because the spark has gone out—or come from an explosion.
You are looking for something that is going to get your love unstuck, your intimacy flowing again; something to end the distrust or to break the silences. You are looking for someone to help you shift or repair this most precious relationship of yours. Sooner rather than later.
Not with fireworks or formulas—just a steady kind of counselling, rooted in presence and authenticity.
A desire to rebuild intimacy, honesty, and connection
Your capacity to see people so precisely and completely is just beautiful and freeing. Sometimes it’s pure magic and you seem to see things about either of us that we ourselves would find hard to give words to. You make it appear from behind a veil, with kindness and curiosity. One spouse of a married couple
I don’t sit back and nod. I don’t referee or keep score. This work is engaged, directive, and grounded in two things: truth and relationship.
We work with what’s happening right now between you—and what’s been simmering under the surface for far too long. Using a blend of Gottman Method and Relational Life Therapy, we look at how you fight, how you speak (or don’t), how you defend, withdraw, control, collapse, or keep peace at the cost of your truth.
We don’t just build communication skills—we work with the deeper emotional patterns that keep those skills from sticking. We name what’s real, not just what’s polite. We learn to listen without preparing a counterattack. We practice repair, not perfection. And we speak the kind of truths that change something.
You don’t need to be aligned on everything. But you do need to be willing to see, and be seen. To become, in a way, each other’s witness.
This is relationship as a practice, an ever-evolving living being.
If this resonates: let’s talk
It can feel strange to bring your relationship into a room with a third person. Maybe it’s a last resort. Maybe it’s your first act of courage. You don’t need to have it all figured out. But if something in your dynamic feels broken, unsustainable, or ready to shift—this could be a place to begin.
Couples counselling in Nyon, Lausanne, and online
I offer relationship therapy for couples struggling with communication, emotional distance, conflict, or trust issues. Sessions are available in person (Nyon or Lausanne) or online. Using tools from the Gottman Method and Relational Life Therapy, we focus on repair, reconnection, and building new ways of relating.
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