When you need change — and you need it to last
You want more than a temporary truce.
You’re looking for something to get your love unstuck, your intimacy flowing again; something to end the distrust or break the silences.
You’re looking for someone who can help you shift or repair this most precious relationship of yours — sooner rather than later.
Not with fireworks or formulas, but with a steady kind of relationship therapy, rooted in presence and authenticity.
The work starts with where you are now, and aims for something you can carry forward long after our sessions end.
Most couples begin this work with a mix of distance and hope — still close enough to reach for each other, but unsure how.
What brings couples to counselling or marriage therapy
- Communication breakdowns and constant fighting
- Emotional distance and disconnection
- Infidelity, broken trust, or lingering resentment
- Differences in parenting, values, or priorities
- A desire to rebuild intimacy, honesty, and connection
These aren’t just “issues” — they’re the moments that can make your home feel tense, your days heavier, your connection fragile.
They can leave you stuck in the same fight, living in separate worlds under the same roof, or wondering if you can ever get back what you had.
The truth is, many couples arrive here feeling like they’ve already tried everything — and still, the distance or conflict keeps pulling them apart. That’s where our work begins. And as it starts to take root, it can feel something like this:
Your capacity to see people so precisely and completely is just beautiful and freeing. Sometimes it’s pure magic and you seem to see things about either of us that we ourselves would find hard to give words to. You make it appear from behind a veil, with kindness and curiosity.
— Spouse of a married couple, 2025
What working with a couples counsellor can look like
We focus on what’s happening between you now, and what’s been simmering under the surface for too long. Using a blend of Gottman Method and Relational Life Therapy, we explore how you fight, how you speak (or don’t), and how you defend, withdraw, control, collapse, or keep peace at the cost of your truth.
Together, we build communication skills and work with the deeper emotional patterns that keep those skills from sticking.
That can mean naming what’s real instead of what’s polite, or practising active listening — staying present with what you hear without preparing a counterattack or shutting down. We practice repair, not perfection.
I’m engaged throughout, and directive when that’s needed and appropriate — keeping the work anchored in two things: authenticity and relationship.
Curious how the actual process unfolds? Here’s a look at how counselling usually works — and what to expect.
If this resonates: let’s talk
It can feel strange to bring your relationship into a room with a third person. Maybe it’s a last resort. Maybe it’s your first act of courage. You don’t need to have it all figured out. But if something in your dynamic feels broken, unsustainable, or ready to shift—this could be a place to begin.
Sessions available wherever you are: online
If you’d prefer speaking in English
Also looking for support as an individual or father? Explore Individual Counselling or Men’s Work.
Related reads:
- How Couples Can End the Endless Fighting
- Vulnerability in Romance
- Establishing Boundaries in Relationship
- Soul Psychology and Depth Work
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this about saving our relationship or deciding to separate?
Marriage therapy isn't about keeping people together at all costs. Some couples come to repair and reconnect, others come for clarity. The work helps you face what’s real — and decide how you want to go forward, together or apart.
What if one of us doesn’t want to do couples counselling?
That’s a common situation. If one of you is reluctant or sceptical, we can start where you are. Change often begins when one person shifts how they show up — and that shift alone can alter the whole system.
We argue constantly. Can couples counselling still help?
Yes. In fact, frequent conflict is a strong signal that something needs to change — and it can. Couples counselling teaches you how to interrupt the cycle of blame and defensiveness, and how to communicate without causing more harm.
How long does marriage counselling usually take?
There’s no fixed length. Some couples just need a handful of sessions to reset communication. Others go deeper over time. We decide together what makes sense for your situation, your goals, and your capacity.
Do you offer online couples counselling for expats in Switzerland?
Yes — I work with expat couples both online and in person (Nyon and Lausanne). Many of my clients are navigating cross-cultural relationships or life transitions far from their country of origin.
Do you offer English-speaking couples therapy in Vaud?
Yes. I work primarily in English with international clients across Vaud and beyond. Whether you're newly in conflict or feeling years of distance, this space supports honest conversation and practical change — in a language you’re comfortable in.
